Finding "the 1"

This is a normal issue in our church or in any church concerned

Dating / relationship / yoking with unbelievers

Sometimes, it becomes a taboo

(do not mention in public!!)

"Do not gossip!"

"Are you sure? Didn't you know?"

We have to admit, there is no one who has not that issue in mind

Reasons given for not yoking with unbelievers:

(1) will abandon faith and God

(2) may be prosecuted

(3) may have to bow to idols

(4) become compromising on conducts and values

(5) Bible says so

I could agree nothing less.

What do we have in common with non-believers?

Thinking that we will be apart after death tore my heart apart.

Could not give my heart out if he is an unbeliever.

Some of my friends' other half is non, but became a believer some time after

(gambling with love and life, totally disagree)

Although being a Christian has many levels,

may also backslide afterwards,

may be a hypocrite,

however, at least we start on the right foot and

under the surveillance of the church

Safer!

Reasons given for not dating without marriage in mind:

(1) unfair to the other party

(2) if not for the sake of marriage, may be for the sake of physical intimacy

(3) need to handle insecurity issues before hand

(4) then why you find partner if not for life?

Youngsters usually fall into this category

They like excitement and experimenting

As you grow older, we grow in maturity and responsibility

As we grow older, marriage will become the driving force

Reasons not to date the other half from other churches:

(1) do not share the same vision

(2) we do not really know if we serve well together

(3) we are committed to local church (H Ktn)

(4) may be pulled away to serve in another church (we are in deficient)

So, if all these criterias could be nulled, then "the one" could be considered, right?