a father's role

what is the role of a father?

protector of the family?

breadwinner?

the leader of the family?

mainly; as a financial source

i looked around for a good example of a father
it has become rare and rarer
slowly fading is the role of a father


it could be said that it is an nearly non-existence presence
or sady to say, father is usually absent in the family picture
seldom seen in the perimeter of a house

if do, usually reserved in his own thinking
in a way, seems hard to attach to the family inner circle
physical touch is not common to a father

whenever,
i see a complete family bonded together
my heart twitched with envy
a good envy i mean
appreciating that scene
because it may take some time before i see another one

it is not uncommon that fathers of the people near us fall into these categories:

(1) work far from home and seldom seen
(2) come back late either from drinking or rather meet up with friends
(3) sit at a corner watching tv or reading newspapers
(4) do not give much responses or reactions to the happenings at home

if your father joke, have fun and just talk to you, seize that moment and be appreciative, knowing that not many have these opportunities as you are.

i believe that men could be misinterpreted and misunderstood at times

men:

(1) are sensitive, fragile, insecured, low self-esteem, need constant admiration, appreciation and understanding
(2) need their space but will come back after caving in
(3) have pride (sometimes hard for them to say that they are sorry or wrong)
(4) boundaried by the concepts of what a real man is and cannot project their true emotions freely, trapped and feel uncomfortable to speak out, thus react in a way women could not tolerate (these are wrong concepts...man is a human too)

world has been evolving,
i recognize that men are masculine on the outside but feminine (i mean gentle) in their inside

they have needs, emotion fluctuation, gentler side, hurting edge and empty void in their hearts

women should learn how to understand men

phrases to melt a man's heart:

(1) i need you
(2) i love you just as you are
(3) please don't go

women should also let go of their pride to bring back the men of their lives...